It’s really hard for me to believe the year is almost over. The decorations are up, the gifts are bought, and plans are made for gathering with friends and family.
Last weekend I had the privilege of attending the candlelight walk in my hometown of Granville. The luminaires lined the street, and decorated wagons pulled by Clydesdales carried festive participants up and down the main street. Many vendors braved the cold to offer tantalizing treats as crowds passed by on the way to one of the church concerts.
This is an event I look forward to every year, and it really kick-starts the season for me. It’s a tradition I enjoy with family to savor the sounds of carols and the smell of hot chocolate. I hope you have some events you are looking forward to this season so it’s not all about the gifts, but the experiences to create memories.
The family traditions we practice don’t have to be expensive or elaborate. It’s the time we spend mindfully together — no phones or distractions but time talking, laughing and working together. Traditions help us build commitment to each other and share our unconditional love.
Why do we need traditions and rituals? In an article written by Denise Witmer, she suggests the following five reasons to observe family traditions:
—Family traditions create good feelings and special moments to remember.
—Family traditions give every member of the family a stronger sense of belonging.
—Family traditions help youth with their identity.
—Family traditions help parents impart the family’s values to their children.
—Family traditions offer youth a sense of security.
Families who build on traditions or create new celebrations and routines increase their enjoyment of life together and capacity for coping with unexpected challenges. Maybe your traditions for the holidays have been taking a drive to look at the lights, ringing the bells, giving to others or going caroling with your favorite group. As you recognize the traditions and rituals in your family, take time to also recognize the strength you gain from them. They make your family unique and provide understanding, continuity, closeness and appreciation for one another.
Dr. Susan Coady of the Ohio State University (www.genealogy.com/articles) suggests the following:
